The Girlfriend Experience

As I recently wrote on Twitter, the girlfriend experience is about mutual respect. It is when a sex worker treats a client as more than “just a client” and, conversely, a client treats a sex worker as more than “just a sex worker.” Treating each other with dignity and respect creates unforgettable memories for both parties.

To me, everything in life is reciprocal. When people treat others how they would wish to be treated, then there will never be negative energy or disappointment. Positivity coupled with kind-heartedness is always a win/win scenario.

As such, when corresponding with potential clients, my favourite questions from gentlemen are always personality-driven. I love being asked about my interests and future goals; the books that I’m reading; and what I aspire in life.

The questions that I do not favour are with respect to specific services that I offer. Remember: sex workers are a sure thing. I am pretty sure that clients already know what to expect. To me, being asked to provide a menu is an immediate turn-off. It makes me think that the client is more interested in checking off an arbitrary list of services than experiencing a connection with me.

In my opinion, if you want to establish a connection, then it is character-driven as opposed to a list of specific services. Personality and mutual respect are what matter most.

The girlfriend experience is about reciprocal responsibilities: clients should be treated as though they are more than just a transaction and, conversely, sex workers should be treated as though they are more than just a checklist of services.

 

Girlfriend Experience (GFE)

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Intimacy comes in many different flavors beyond the physical. Consider the gentleman who seeks the company of a true GFE escort in an effort to fortify his self perception. It is not a coincidence that many relationships fall apart because they grow apart, leaving identities and feelings of self-worth in the dust. Lack of intimacy can lead to angst, self-doubt and beliefs of inadequacy. Unconscious desires (or conscious, as it were) and emotional needs can in fact drive a man into the arms of an independent escort whose beauty goes beyond skin deep. But why does he choose the strategy of intimacy for hire versus traditional courting?

If a man has had turbulent, unfulfilling or traumatic experiences with women, turning to the company of a GFE for personal validation can be liberating. We are not referring to the fast food of affection, where you’re in and out in an hour. This GFE-inclined man tends to spend more time with the same lady (or maybe a few), one whom he has deliberately sought out because he believes she is a good match for his needs.

He seeks those watershed moments that feed his manly worth and deeply enhance what might otherwise be considered bland life occurrences. His companion takes him by the hand and jumps down the proverbial rabbit hole of passion, satiating his security and validating his self-esteem. In the conventional dating world, it might be years before he discovers this same depth of passion and compatibility with another woman and maybe never.

Perhaps his companion does not even refer to herself as a GFE, that overused term to which we are all so accustomed. She is aware that the sum of her intellect, appearance and style will speak to the gentleman looking for a connection that actually goes way beyond what the acronym implies. In the world of companionship, everyone is looking for something. This man is looking for a transformation, one that will boost his mental and emotional dispositions and one that will amplify his love life.

Losing the emotional baggage through GFE represents a healing encounter

Is it true that engaging in an ongoing affair with a compatible escort can improve a man’s mental health? Depending on his motivations, we tend to think so. Not getting your physical and emotional needs met can cause loneliness, frustration and isolation. A courtesan as gifted with intuition as she is blessed with stunning good looks can be the catalyst for healing gratification that her gentleman friend needs.

Men who seek the girlfriend experience for psychological gratification are more common than you think

Diminishing affection due to lack of attention from the wife who’s got her own story; demands of work which have all but given you a heart attack or physical impairment that leaves you feeling unattractive are just a few of the motivators that inspire men to look to the GFE for pleasure, healing and elation.