I was what society considered perfect a Size 3 I spiral to a size 20. What happens when I turn into a BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) How society treats you.
I’ve always been a thin, petite woman. The type of nerdy, shy girl no one is interested in. Everything changed when I got into modeling school. As I was too short for runway modeling, I got into adult magazine modeling. I was a cover girl and centerfold model while I was a dancer.
One day a man gave me a $100 bill with his number on it and asked me to buy an outfit, then call him and describe it to him. Of course, I did! I bought myself a beautiful, sexy little black dress and judging by the man’s voice, he was more than happy when I described him my looks.
Despite all these, I was sad. In fact, I was depressed. I tried to talk about it to some friends, but they were quick to dispel my feelings by saying “You’re too pretty to be depressed! Get over it!”. But I couldn’t.
While I did enjoy all the attention I got from both men and women, there were times I just wanted to become invisible. I wanted men to stop honking and whistling at me, I wanted women to stop staring at me.
I come from a middle-income family who valued religious norms and a kind heart. When men started to buy me expensive things, from jewelry to vacations, I was both amazed and thrilled. But I had days when I stood in my high-rise apartment, in an upscale area of the town, wearing expensive clothes and jewelry, crying. Nothing could make me feel better about myself, not even the constant appreciation I received from men.
One day I decided I don’t want to have periods anymore, so I went to my OB-GYN and asked for Depo-Prova shots. I got them, but at the time I had no idea what I was getting myself into. The doctor didn’t talk to me about the side-effects of these shots. 3 Depo-Prova shots later I gained 95 lbs. in one year! I ended up weighing 200 lbs at 5’3. I went from size 3 to a size 20 not noticing it. Because it had happened gradually, I didn’t notice it right away. Each time my clothes became too small I just went and bought new ones, in a larger size.
Even after I stopped the shots I continued to gain weight. This changed my entire life.
Now I was able to walk on the street without men honking at me or asking for my number. My friends were dropping their jaw when they saw me, asking me what I am going to do about my weight.
The larger I got I began to feel excluded by society. Men were no longer offering to hold the door for me. When I walked into a store the sales persons told me they didn’t carry my size, people in common transportation assumed I was pregnant and offered me their seat. My personal doctor suggested I had a gastric bypass to lose weight. If I went out to have a meal I felt people’s judgmental looks. My own friends suggested I cut back on the amount of food I ate, even if I wasn’t eating more food than usual. I felt like I was pressured to get back in shape, just for society’s visual pleasure.
My extra weight started to affect my health. Even if I was exercising, I continued to gain weight and soon I was suffering from hypertension and high cholesterol. A simple walk to the store was a long journey, which ended with painful joints and heavy breathing.
Needless to say, my sex life was non-existent and even if a man would have been interested in me, I was probably too exhausted to do anything. I lost my self-esteem as more and more people were criticizing me for my weight. The number of insults I heard was staggering. Someone even suggested that overweight people should have their own island.
One day, when I was shopping at a plus-size store I met a wonderful woman, also plus size. We quickly became friends and she told me she was on Ashley Madison, the famous escort site. Thanks to her I discovered the amazing BBW niche. This is how I learned there are thousands of men who appreciate and love plus size women. I got into this new world and when I look at the numbers now, I had more regular clients back then, than I have now.
But the extra pounds were taking a toll on my health and I needed to do something about it. I went to a weight loss clinic and started the HCG diet. This is a 500 calorie a day diet, which lasts for 43 days. You give yourself injections in the stomach for 43 days which help you lose fat and retain your muscle mass. This helped me lose 20 lbs. so I in between 6 weeks off I waited to started the next 4 session with breaks.
During the break, I started eating healthy and organic and I exercised a lot. I did 4 treatments and lost 80 lbs. At the end of the diet I was 120 lbs, I was eating healthy and I was doing cardio exercise combined with weightlifting.
After I lost weight I started working as a touring companion, which made it difficult to maintain my diet and workout routine, but I continued to lose weight. When I am at home I am lifting 5 days a week and I do cardio for 45 minutes 6 days a week.
After I lost weight I still had a lot of body image issues. Men and women were giving me attention once again, but inside I was still unhappy with my look. This inability to be happy with how you look is fueled by the society. We learn from childhood that a beautiful woman is supposed to look like Barbie, an unrealistic role model. As we grow up we see in movies and in the women around us how disappointed they are by their look. I always thought people were beautiful regardless of size. Because of their inner beauty, humanitarian deeds and contribution to life. Which I’m a big believer in.
We also learn to value ourselves based on how we look and we are taught we need to be visually pleasing for the society we live in. Moreover, people around us think we should lose weight to look good, not to be healthy. This was a very important thing for me, as my health problems made me do something about my weight and now I am entirely focused on being healthy.
I had of surgery to correct what happen to me after losing weight. I found beautiful Mia again. But, that’s a different story….
London is one of my favorite European countries and I’ve visited it many times. Of course, the first two times in the town I went straight to the most famous places, like The Big Ben or Victoria and Albert Museum. But then I wanted to see more, to find out more about London’s amazing history. And I was not disappointed, because you can find history at every corner in this amazing city. You can literally walk past something interesting daily. Here is my list of interesting, history-rich places in London.
The final resting place of Joseph Merrick
Whitechapel is famous for being the hunting ground of the infamous Ripper, but it also offers other interesting and history-rich places. One of them is the Royal London Hospital, which is the last resting place of Joseph Merrick, known as the “Elephant Man”. He suffered from an unknown medical condition which deformed his face and skull. After he was paraded around Europe in a curiosity freak show, he ended up in the Royal London Hospital, where he died in 1890. A replica of his skeleton can be seen at the hospital’s museum, located in a small church, along with other interesting exhibits. The museum is across the street from the actual hospital, downstairs in the former crypt and is very easy to access from the Whitechapel underground station.
Trafalgar square’s smallest police station
Walking along Trafalgar Square you will see a large post for a street lamp, equipped with a black door. Well, I found that it was actually a Police post. The smallest in London, installed in 1926 and kept in use for some time. A policeman was sitting inside the tiny post to watch the people in Trafalgar Square. If things went wrong, they could intervene on the spot, after they called for backups from the Scotland Yard. The little post has windows and when I peeked inside I could see a lot of cleaning materials and mops… Strange, but the actual post is cute.
We all know that joke when someone farts on a lamp and it lights it up, but London actually has its own version of this joke. Welcome to the Farting Lane! The real name of the road is Carting Lane and nearby the Savoy Hotel you can see the last sewer lamp. They were all around London in the 19th century and they were used to burn off the horrific smell from the sewers and to light up the streets. The lamp is lit 24/7 and is said to be fueled by the guests of Savoy. Truth or fiction, the lamp looks very fashionable and is not far from Trafalgar Square.
The cholera-giving water pump
If you become thirsty in London and you have a strong stomach you can try to drink water from Dr. John Snow’s water pump, on Broad Wisk Street, in Soho. The pump helped Dr. John Snow realize that illnesses are spread by contaminated water, not miasma, how it was previously thought. In 1850s, there was a cholera outbreak in Soho and that water pump was blamed by Dr. Snow to be the center point of the entire epidemic. The doctor is now known as the parent of epidemiology and modern medicine. As for the water pump, I didn’t try to use it. Who knows? I don’t want to wonder if I got anything from drinking water from it next time I get a cold.
They say you should never judge a person until you’ve walked in their shoes. Despite this, we have a strong tendency to judge everyone from the first time we lay our eyes on them, before we even know who they are and from where they come from.
You probably did the same with me, when you first stumbled upon my site. Now, I decided it’s time to reveal who I am. Here is the real Mia Evans.
I was born in Tampa, FL to an African American/Native American mother and a Jewish/African American father. My Jewish family is very conservative, so I had a strict upbringing. I practice Kabbalah, a form of Judaism.
I have a major in Business and a minor in Marketing, which opened the door for me towards the Corporate America. I was lucky enough to get a job in the mortgage lending industry.
Yet the shy, nerdy girl who came from a strict, religious family and was a virgin until 19 years old had a secret: a fascination for adult entertainment!
My fascination made me leave my corporate job and take up dancing, which suited my outgoing nature. After all, I am a Leo, a leader, the life of the party! In my 20s I modeled for many adult magazines, appearing on the covers and as the centerfold model. My talent agent booked me shows which enabled me to travel across US to Gentlemen clubs as a headliner. During these times I learned that I was attracted by older, wiser men. I enjoy their company and making money out of it came naturally. I also value chivalry, wisdom and intelligence, which arouse me.
Working in adult industry has its own drawbacks, the main one being the danger of alienating your family. Luckily, I was spared from that. My family accepted my job, as well as a couple of my friends. I learned not to care for the rest of them, nor for all the strangers who judge me for who I am and what I do.
A day in my life…
starts at 5AM, when I go to the gym. I stay in shape by doing weight lifting and cardio exercises 5 times a week. I also do yoga and swimming 3 times a week and I make sure I eat 5 healthy, mostly organic meals a day. Now that I’m writing this, 5 seems to be my lucky number for staying in good shape.
Marriage? Kids? They are awesome, but not for me. I have no interest in settling down and having children. But I do have an interest in volunteering at animal shelters, children’s centers and elderly nursing homes. My mother’s illness forced her to reside in an elderly home, so this fuels my interest for these amazing establishments which provide relief for those who need it most. My mom is also the reason why I moved to Milwaukee.
Memorable times on the road
Thanks to my business, I am sometimes touring different parts of the world. I have a soft spot for Paris and London, where I love to catch up with some of my friends and do some shopping. I also love Jamaica, Bahamas, Cozumel, Cancun, and the Virgin Island, which speak to me at a magical level. Expect me to blog about them and my great experiences in these places.
There is no summer for me without jet skiing, diving and swimming. I found them refreshing and energizing. In the winter, I never pass an opportunity to play with the snowmobile. I also love traveling and I hope I will be able to see as much of the world as possible. If I could, I would ditch everything and become a full time tourist!
Self-improvement is endless
Deep down, I am still a nerdy girl, so I strongly believe in endless self-improvement. This is why I am attending the online classes of Milwaukee University. Staying up to date with the latest technologies is vital for a self-employed person, like me and it helps me become better at managing my business and providing high quality services.
My future plans are…
opening a Day Spa back in Florida and see it develop and thrive!
Yesterday I was looking at some photos and I found some pics from my trip to Paris. Oh, Paris! I remember how I woke up on the first day in the city, looking at the Eiffel Tower against a bright blue sky. This is a scene one can never forget! And there are many more lovely things about Paris. Yes, it is dirty and filled with beggars, but it also has a unique charm. Here are some of the places I’ve been which made me fall for Paris.
You can’t go to Paris and skip Eiffel Tower. However, I almost did. One can imagine perfect pictures with the Tower and a great view from its top. But the queue for entering Eiffel Tower is huge and the grass below it is packed with tourists who are enjoying the view. So, I simply took some photos and enjoyed the atmosphere, then went on to see more of Paris.
Musee de la Mode
Musee de la Mode translates into Fashion Museum and it’s definitely worth visiting. The building which houses the museum is a 19th century Renaissance Palace with beautiful mosaic floors and tall ceilings. The building is an attraction itself. After admiring the museum, one can look around. At the time there was an exhibition featuring 1950s fashion. Each dress and outfit was a true fashion statement. The ample skirts and the tiny waistlines create a perfect hourglass shape on every woman. They were oozing 1950s style, being so elegant and glamorous. Yet, there was something more about them. They looked like a strong woman’s response to the daily hardships of the war and post-war years. Times were changing and the war was finally over and these outfits scream this to the viewer. Or, at least, this is what I felt.
Near Notre Dame Cathedral there is an octogonal plate embedded on the floor, which marks Paris Point Zero, the place from where all routes from Paris to other places are being calculated. This place is special because people tend to use it as a wishing well. The small plate is filled with coins, as people make a wish and throw a coin on the floor, on the Point Zero. I did it myself too and I must confess the wish came true.
Notre Dame de Paris
Notre Dame de Paris is a Gothic style Cathedral and one of the most famous landmarks of Paris, along with the Eiffel Tower. Given the number of tourists around the cathedral, one can easily take it as a movie set rather than an actual religious place. The building is stunning. At the exterior there are thousands of details, which can also be found inside the cathedral. One can spend hours just analyzing the building and wondering how could someone build something this large in 1100s. It was noon when I went and the bright sunlight was lighting the stained glass, revealing its amazing details. One single window is so complex that you need to look at it for minutes on end to check out all the details.
I never expected to see an active vineyard in the middle of Paris, but then I discovered the Montmartre Vineyward. It is the last active vineyard in the city and it looks like a lavishing garden. Along the grapes, there are other plants as well, which make the entire place look like it just jumped out of a Disney movie. The buildings near-by also help with this amazing look.
Paris is an amazing city and has a lot to offer, so I will definitely write more about my trip in the capital of France.
Published by Miss Escort – Excellent insight into escorting industry.
There are various reasons why a man would take money out of his pocket to pay for something that he may easily get at home. It is not like all these men are hideous and most of my clients are married and well-to-do. If not their wives, they could easily find a hookup buddy elsewhere like at a bar, through a friend, or on a dating or adult site. So what is with them paying me, or you for sex? Here is a list of reasons I have generated from my many conversations with my clients.
1. It is a fun hobby and kind of for the sport for them. This can’t be any truer for some of the men. On escort review forums there is even a sense of community. Just like how me being bookish have a book blog and follow other book bloggers, make comments and review…
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It’s a hard question. A common misconception is that only beautiful girls make money. Yet beauty is very subjective. And more importantly, many women do not realize that outer beauty, alone, is simply not enough to become a wholesomely desirable woman. Moreover, no matter how desirable a woman may be, one can never appeal to all. Being successful and making good money are very temporal for an escort, and very susceptible to fluctuation. Even when women are able to make lots of money for a period of time, it does not mean they are necessarily successful with clients nor does it mean they are promised a successful future.
There are a lot of escorts who may appear to be ‘successful’ for the moment, yet what outsiders do not see is that, behind the scenes, she may very well have little prospects for the future. In my opinion, being a successful escort means establishing a good regular clientele and working towards an alternative career, because this equates to long term success in a more emotionally wholesome environment.
Generally, girls who make lots of money are hustlers. Which means they chase money at all the multiple scales of ‘high-class’ escorting, and they essentially make escorting their life (ie: they work full-time and are often willing to work at all hours of the day). However, while working full-time can equate to lots of money, I’d argue that working constantly is a recipe for short-term success only.
Working full-time is not easy by any means, and there are typically dire implications. Firstly, a woman may make a lot of money for a period of time, yet it does not mean she will continue to be successful endlessly. What makes an escort successful versus how much money she’s made are not the same thing. One woman I knew (who’s in the industry) lived quite a lavish lifestyle. You’d think that she’s making $1000+ US dollars per hour. But in reality, she does a mixture of jobs catering to clients of all rate-scales. She works in a brothel-like establishment in the day-time.
This pays her approximately $240 per hour (the business takes $70 dollars.), which seems very low. Then she advertises and does private out-calls/incalls for a much higher price. She works every day, and like many other full-time escorts, she, sadly, use drugs and alcohol to lessen the emotional impact. Yes, one can make lots of money by working full-time, but at what cost? Short-term goals of making fast-money often have negative implications, physically and mentally. I cannot relay how many escorts I met who sacrificed their mind, body, and soul for quick, fast money — from extremely short-lived beauty queens to drug addicted, disfigured women in a very short span. Drug/substance addictions and the resulting physical/mental damage is a reality for many prostitutes who are not careful in how they work within this industry. Tragically, many women who end up in this tragic fate had no option of choice — too often women get lured by mass exploitation and false promises within the sex industry.
Aside from being susceptible to drugs and alcohol, working too often can also make an escort harden, or burn out, more faster. In other words, working too frequently will make her experiences with clients more rigid, and therefore her chances of establishing wholesome, regular clientele will be stipulated. One must humble themselves and realize that many women are not given the option to work less — everyone has different circumstances. I personally recommend working less, if that’s an option.
Once a woman can become established as an independent escort, I recommend working less at higher rates to a select clientele. And finally, I stress the importance of balancing one’s life with clients and other things they enjoy (outside of their work).
*I should also note that many ‘high-class’ escorts give off the facade of wealth/luxury, when in reality they are spending all of their income on designer goods to promote their image. She might be carrying Chanel bags, but it doesn’t imply she’s successful or wealthy. Ironically, the rule I learnt from my observations is that anyone who makes tremendous effort to boast of their ‘success’ or material gains is, in fact, using boasting to mask their deep insecurities and low self-esteem. It is very easy for an escort to have a low sense of self, as wealth and ‘success’ with clients are extremely fragile.
In my opinion, a successful escort is one who is moderate in her spending and humble; she saves a lot or invests into a home and/or education, because she’s mindful that she cannot sell herself forever.
Extremely high-priced girls are not necessarily more ‘worthy’ than a girl with more moderate hourly rates. In fact, as mentioned, many escorts are often working at multiple rate scales. For example, the same escort who advertises for $800.00 dollars per hour is also likely working for $200.00 an hour. The escorting industry simply exploits the fact that some men will pay a lot of money for a woman who is apparently “higher” class.
The difference in price is not always reflective of the quality of the girl, but rather it is simply marketing and the overall economics of the particular city. However, quality can exist. There are women who set their rates higher than average, and can provide a more ‘quality’ experience as they are more selective with their clientele and, perhaps, work less frequently — in all cases, from the clients end, seeing escorts is always a gamble.
In general, most women I met are catering to two types of clientele: (1) clients who see private/independent escorts only, and (2) ‘brothel rats,’ clients (as they called them), or men who visit brothel establishments only. Overall, escorts do not all work in the same manner, and many women establish their own preferences on where, when and how to work. What is comfortable for one woman is different than other. Usually, women work in scenarios related to their level of comfort. For instance, a lot of ‘elite’ escorts prefer the brothel/agency settings rather than working independently.
For myself, personally, I have never been a hustler in the sense of working full-time. I have always worked part-time as an escort, at my own leisure and comfort. Yet despite working part-time, I make a generous income for working so infrequently, and I am satisfied with having enough to live comfortable, and establishing some savings gradually.
I don’t want to ‘hustle’ and work full-time as a professional escort, because I have seen how so many escorts over-work themselves and s a result burn out. Then again, I have to be so thankful that I can have the luxury of being able to work less and live relatively well — some women aren’t as lucky, and are sort of compelled to work full-time.
What Girls are Most in Demand?
From my observations, there are a few characteristics that drive men wild. Yet again, one must remember that desires are so diverse, so I always recommended escorts to be themselves.
A stunningly beautiful girl who’s new to the sex industry or a particular place (or city) will likely be popular at first. However, once she’s slept with the men who were curious about her …she will only continue to be successful if she has the brains or sexual confidence to match.
For the most part, clients want good sex and good companionship. I’ve seen many beautiful girls who get overly confident in their first months, only to be shocked why they don’t have any regulars. Outer beauty, alone, has nothing to do with establishing a true connection with a worthy, wholesome client.
Who are the most popular girls?
Again, it’s a perception. A girl can be popular for periods of time, but as mentioned before…even the most beautiful girl will go from being popular to just having her regulars and a consistent flow. But again, it really depends, as all escorts are unique individuals. As an independent escort, the dynamics are different, because now, I choose from the pool of clients who contact me.
I am always thankful that I have been a desired woman in this industry. As clients would tell me, I have both beauty and intellect. I am chosen for both reasons, but at other times it’s one or the other. Apart from my admired big boobs and shapely backside, I retain a bit of elegance in my mannerisms, dress and speech also, so many clients express how this attracted them and made them feel at ease. Presentation plays an important role in what sort of clients an escort will attract. If I had a rude personality and presented myself as purely flesh, I would certainly attracted a different clientele (the kind I wouldn’t like).
Intimacy comes in many different flavors beyond the physical. Consider the gentleman who seeks the company of a true GFE escort in an effort to fortify his self perception. It is not a coincidence that many relationships fall apart because they grow apart, leaving identities and feelings of self-worth in the dust. Lack of intimacy can lead to angst, self-doubt and beliefs of inadequacy. Unconscious desires (or conscious, as it were) and emotional needs can in fact drive a man into the arms of an independent escort whose beauty goes beyond skin deep. But why does he choose the strategy of intimacy for hire versus traditional courting?
If a man has had turbulent, unfulfilling or traumatic experiences with women, turning to the company of a GFE for personal validation can be liberating. We are not referring to the fast food of affection, where you’re in and out in an hour. This GFE-inclined man tends to spend more time with the same lady (or maybe a few), one whom he has deliberately sought out because he believes she is a good match for his needs.
He seeks those watershed moments that feed his manly worth and deeply enhance what might otherwise be considered bland life occurrences. His companion takes him by the hand and jumps down the proverbial rabbit hole of passion, satiating his security and validating his self-esteem. In the conventional dating world, it might be years before he discovers this same depth of passion and compatibility with another woman and maybe never.
Perhaps his companion does not even refer to herself as a GFE, that overused term to which we are all so accustomed. She is aware that the sum of her intellect, appearance and style will speak to the gentleman looking for a connection that actually goes way beyond what the acronym implies. In the world of companionship, everyone is looking for something. This man is looking for a transformation, one that will boost his mental and emotional dispositions and one that will amplify his love life.
Losing the emotional baggage through GFE represents a healing encounter
Is it true that engaging in an ongoing affair with a compatible escort can improve a man’s mental health? Depending on his motivations, we tend to think so. Not getting your physical and emotional needs met can cause loneliness, frustration and isolation. A courtesan as gifted with intuition as she is blessed with stunning good looks can be the catalyst for healing gratification that her gentleman friend needs.
Men who seek the girlfriend experience for psychological gratification are more common than you think
Diminishing affection due to lack of attention from the wife who’s got her own story; demands of work which have all but given you a heart attack or physical impairment that leaves you feeling unattractive are just a few of the motivators that inspire men to look to the GFE for pleasure, healing and elation.
Thanks for joining me!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton